The 5 People Every Bliss Builder Keeps in Their Corner

I’ve learned a lot about relationships over the years. This includes a firestorm of confusing, hurtful, but then healing relational encounters I had in 2025. After riding the emotional rollercoaster and bursting through the cloud of gaslighting (including gaslighting myself, sigh) from folks who I miscategorized as being in my inner circle, I’ve come to understand the importance of having the right people around you – especially in tough seasons.

In my DISC profile, I am a High I person, therefore I LOVE people and treasure relationships. I’ve had to be more intentional and strategic so that I can stop opening my time and my heart to jokers! If you are also a High I on the DISC scale, I encourage you to be curious and discerning about the people you allow into your circle. We tend to welcome people with open arms who have no business even being close enough for a hug!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           

You can have the vision, the work ethic, and the faith, and still find yourself spinning your wheels because of who you’re doing life with. Powerful professionals don’t succeed in isolation. This hard truth feels like nails on a chalkboard for those of us who are highly independent. Control is not your friend when building a community! It’s time to be intentional about your inner circle, and if you’re serious about creating a life with many more blissful experiences than you’re having right now, you need to take an audit, TODAY.

Here are the five people every Bliss Builder needs in their corner

1. The Cheerleader / Hype Man

Before you start thinking about your potential cheerleaders, let me point out that this person should be an actual cheerleader/hype man, not a fan. A fan just wants to be in your good graces and will lie to you when you need the truth. They may seem like good people to keep in your circle, but like a cavity, they will cause you to rot over time. You can fall into this if you have a li’l ego problem or if your self-esteem doesn’t allow you to cheer yourself on.

The Cheerleader/Hype Man person believes in you on the days when you can’t believe in yourself. They’re not just throwing you empty compliments. They support your vision and remind you of it when fear tries to suffocate what you can see. I’ve had moments (even recently) where I was this close to giving up everything and living in a well in the woods somewhere, and one phone call with my hype person recalibrated everything. This person has a keen understanding of your past, present, and the future you’re reaching for. They’re also a safe place on your doubtiest, messiest days WITHOUT JUDGEMENT. Don’t underestimate the power of someone who can look you dead in the eye and say, “You were built for this.” Find that person. Keep them close. Protect and nurture that relationship. It’s a weapon of warfare in times of mental battle!

2. The Coach

Your coach is not your friend, but they’re in your corner. They’re the one who sees your blind spots, call out your excuses, and refuse to let you play in Lalaland. A good coach doesn’t just validate your feelings; they challenge your thinking, hold the standard when you’re ready to lower it, and ask the questions you’ve been avoiding. The best way to see your coach is the most honest mirror you will ever look through!

Although I am a coach, I HAVE a coach! (How can I pour into others if I don’t allow people to pour into me?) From personal experience on both sides of the equation, the seasons when I invested in coaching were the seasons I moved the furthest, the fastest, with the most finesse! Every high performer has someone in this role in their circle.

That’s exactly why I show up for my clients the way I do. In working 1:1 with women, I help them take brave action, lead with boldness, and finally address the thing they’ve been circling for too long. Whether you need a 90-minute Breakthrough Intensive to reach a tipping point fast or ongoing weekly support to build real momentum, there’s an option designed for exactly where you are right now. Not sure where to start? Book a free consultation and let’s talk it through.

If you don’t have a coach in your corner yet, that’s your first step in building your circle.

3. The Ride or Die

THIS is your person. This is the one who has witnessed you in multiple seasons. They’ve sat with you through the ugly crying, the failed launches, the ghosted and zombied boyfriends, the 2 am spiral texts — and still show up WITHOUT JUDGEMENT. Your Ride or Die doesn’t just celebrate your wins; she sits with you in the hard seasons without trying to rush you out of them because she’s uncomfortable. Unfortunately, this was one of the people I had to let go of last year.

A woman I considered to be in my inner circle in this role kept rushing me out of hard days when I just wanted to share what was on my heart and release my ruminating thoughts in a safe place. Instead, I was met with basically an ultimatum of taking her suggestions (when I didn’t ask for them) or losing connection. Thankfully, I was reminded that it’s okay to have a bad day or a hard season without the need to toxic positivity your way out of it.

This relationship is built over years of trust, and is absolutely irreplaceable. Although this is your closest role, that doesn’t mean you talk every day or that you compromise your values or boundaries.

Not everyone deserves this seat at your table. Guard it accordingly.

4. The Pupil

Here’s the one most of us overlook because we feel like we haven’t reached the level to pour into someone, or we don’t realize how relevant this relationship is. Having a Pupil isn’t just an act of giving back; it’s a growth strategy. Teaching what you know forces you to sharpen it. Watching someone step into their purpose because of your investment is one of the most powerful fuels for your own momentum. If you’re not mentoring someone right now, you are leaving part of your purpose on the table. The world needs what’s inside of you. Pass it on!

5. The Accountabili-Buddy

Vision without execution is just a fantasy. Isolation and hyper-independence are not a flex. Iron sharpening iron is one of the best approaches to success and bliss in your life, business, and career. Your Accountabili-Buddy asks the direct questions like,

“Did you send that email?”

“What’s stopping you from doing the thing?”

“What’s the actual plan?”

and they expect a real answer. This isn’t about shame; it’s about structure. The right Accountabili-Buddy takes your intentions out of the ethos and turns them into actions. Then stokes your actions into results. Choose someone equally committed to growth as you are. There’s nothing worse than latching yourself onto a person who is all fluff but no foundation.  This person won’t let you off the hook when life gets uncomfortable — because it will be (Hello wilderness season!).

A good Accountabili-Buddy also has good discernment. They don’t push for the sake of pushing. They know when you need to take a breath and when you need more push than usual. It’s also important that you and this person’s pace are healthy complements to each other. You don’t want to feel like you’re dragging someone along, and you also don’t want to feel like you’re holding anyone back. Knowing your DISC and Driving Forces profile and cross-referencing your results with this person’s is CRITICAL to match for momentum.

I’ve been asked if one person can hold more than one of these seats. Yes, they can – except for the Coach and the Pupil. I would also discourage assigning 3 roles to solely one person. In addition, a Coach can also be your Accountabili-Buddy.

Be strategic. Not everyone gets a seat, and some seats are more powerful when shared.

So, Who’s in Your Corner?

Take a real look at your inner circle. Are all five seats filled? Are the right people in the right seats?

Where you’re going is too delicate to get there with the wrong crew. Build the circle. Protect the circle. And what happens when you finally stop white-knuckling this journey? Bliss.

Who’s the most important person in your corner right now? Drop their role in the comments. I want to celebrate them with you!